Episode 83 – What If We Have Sex Too Soon?

Co-Host: Scot and Emily McKay - X & Y Communications

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Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are asking if there’s really any reason to hold off from having sex extremely early in the relationship…even on the same day they meet. 

I mean, if that’s what both of you want, why not? But as we all know, life has a way of throwing complications at you…even if you’re all about nothing more than a sexually transactional relationship. 

Whatever happened to connection? What even IS ‘connection’ anyway, and does it have to take very long to happen? If the two of you are horny and just want to have a fling, to what extent do you even HAVE to connect…at all? Isn’t sexual chemistry enough in that case? 

And what if you’re a person of faith and don’t believe in sex before marriage? Does that mean you’re basically supposed to remain platonic friends until your wedding night? 

Well, we all know the truth about ‘technical virginity’ and how fragile even that is vis-a-vis natural human urges and impulses. Does having sex too soon in a relationship negatively affect the prospects for a long-term relationship? I mean, can you trust each other away from home when you couldn’t even resist temptation together? 

But on the other hand, can your sexual relationship suffer if you waited too LONG?

Why is what most men’s dating advice used to teach really a disservice to both women AND men? But wait a minute…does one partner really HAVE to lie or cheat the other in order to make sex happen fast?

That aside, what–if anything–do we miss out on as humanoids by rushing into a sexual relationship immediately? What is ‘the talk’ every couple should have before having sex? (Well, except for ONE key exception!)

The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men’s version, Get Together, Stay Together, at www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women’s version, My One & Only, at www.scotandemily.com