Episode 79 – Is That A Dealbreaker?

Co-Host: Scot and Emily McKay - X & Y Communications

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In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers–or focusing on them–a dealbreaker in and of itself? You know, the ‘don’t bother’ chick, for example?

Is being ‘high maintenance’ a dealbreaker? And if so, what does that even mean? On the other hand, should not having any dealbreakers be a dealbreaker?

Next, we list a full litany of good, solid dealbreakers that just about everyone can agree on. Does a couple have to be truly compatible, even if they’re only down for a short-term fling? What if you and your partner differ on what terms like ‘fidelity’ and ‘cheating’ actually mean…specifically?

How about if a behavioral ‘dealbreaker’ happens without it ever having been discussed as such previously? Should third-parties have any say in what your dealbreakers are as a couple? And hey, what are some specific example of unreasonable dealbreakers? Can there even be such a thing given the reality of personal preference relative to attraction?

What’s the case for and against building a list of checkboxes prospective mates must tick? But on the other hand, if we don’t bother to even think of what we’re looking for, how are we supposed to get it? What’s the balance?

And with that in mind, why do so many people pretty much run away from ever having to evaluate the potential of the relationship they’re entering? And what if one of your dealbreakers automatically eliminates a massive percentage of your potential dating pool?

As you can see, there’s plenty to talk about surrounding this topic…and we pretty much cover it all. D

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