Episode 63 – Neediness, Desperation And Trying Too Hard

Co-Host: Scot and Emily McKay - X & Y Communications

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Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating–and common–ways we do mess up our chances in dating and relationships? I’m talking, of course, about trying too hard.

Do men, especially so-called ‘nice guys’, do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks?

But what are the ways that women tend to try too hard? Why do people think this works to attract people, when the weird psychological effect is the exact opposite?

Instead of pushing people away, how can we PULL them in magnetically? And what’s the difference between needy approval seeking as opposed to simply being too damn perky, upbeat, enthusiastic or optimistic?

Why do people persist in trying too hard, even when they already realize they’re ‘pushing it uphill’ and their efforts are doomed to failure? And what’s up with men’s tendency to try logicking women into liking us?

Women often say they ‘want a man to pursue them’, but how is that different than chasing in desperation? Of course, no discussion such as this would be complete without straight talk on when to actually give up.

The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men’s version, Get Together, Stay Together, at www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women’s version, My One & Only, at www.scotandemily.com.

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