Episode 86 – What If You’re Disappointed?

Co-Host: Scot and Emily McKay - X & Y Communications

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Well, here’s the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT…maybe that’s a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much.

So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn’t it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of “macro-disappointments” vs. “micro-disappointments”.

And what about other couple’s Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us?

Is there really such thing as “the seven-year itch”, and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn’t boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that?

And what about this business of “spicing up a relationship”? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other’s best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment?

What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it?

Why does being “nice” disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement?

Finally, what if you’re actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a “one hit wonder”?