Commit-2-B-Fit: Improve Trust And Communication With Couples Fitness
Posted on August 13, 2009
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By Scott Tousignant
Creator of More Love Less Fat
Trust and communication are two very important components of a successful relationship. Angie and I have put together a simple workout that you can do with your partner, which incorporates both of these key ingredients. Check it out…
There’s an instant connection when Angie and I begin this workout. It all starts with ‘touch’. We hold hands and lean our backs against each other. We are now two bodies working as ‘one’.
Next Angie and I need to communicate with each other to ensure that we are set in the proper position and ready to begin the exercise. Throughout the workout Angie and I are constantly communicating with each other in order to know how many more reps we feel that we could do or if we can take the movement deeper.
There’s a constant feeling of trust. I’m relying on Angie to let me know if she needs to get up or move out of position. Otherwise I could end up flat on my rear. On a side note, I always make sure that I butter Angie up before this workout just to make sure that she’s not going to pull any tricks on me and put me on my butt during the workout. ;)
Perform this workout for 10 minutes and feel free to take a break as often as you need to. Just be sure to march on the spot during the rest period and aim to improve the number of reps that you can do when you try this workout again.
Give it a try and let us know if this fun and fast couples workout increases the trust and communication in your relationship.
You ROCK! Enjoy the experience,
Scott Tousignant
Scott and Angie Tousignant have been helping couples rekindle their love-connection for over a decade. Their program More Love Less Fat – A Couples Guide To Transforming Your Body and Relationship reveals their secrets to a healthy and happy marriage.
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Top 10 Ways To Know It’s Time To Get Married
Posted on August 2, 2009
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You’ve done everything it takes to get your own game together, and you’ve been a man or woman who deserves what you want for sometime now. In fact, you’ve found a partner as terrific as you are, and the question has inevitably surfaced: Is it time to “pop the question” around here?
I believe a lot of us really have not spent enough time ruminating upon what it really takes to consider a decision to make marriage plans. And make no mistake, my friends, this is the kind of thought that should go on long before you are ever in the position to actually act upon what you think and / or feel.
Indeed, getting engaged should never be a “knee-jerk” decision. In fact, nothing involving “jerks” of any kind should ever be a consideration.
So whether you are in a serious relationship right now or not, let’s consider the top ten signs to look for when considering marriage:
1) You are attracted to each other
First, you absolutely, positively must be sexually attracted to the object of your affection. This is NOT being shallow, as we’ve discussed previously. Don’t you appreciate how I freely endorse making this a priority? Thought so. Feel better now? LOL
2) You actually like each other
Laugh if you will, but I’ve seen first-hand how couples justify long-term relationships despite getting on each other’s nerves big time. I personally don’t get it, and if you deserve what you want I surely hope you don’t want that.
Three Secrets To Long-Term Relationship Success
Posted on August 2, 2009
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My younger brother got married a few years ago. It was a typical church wedding, which meant that the minister who was marrying them inevitably gave a sermon.
And it was a good one. By this, I mean I remember the outline of it three and a half years later. And I can’t remember that much about any sermon I’ve heard since, frankly.
The title of the sermon was, “The Three Ingredients of a Successful Marriage”. I remember my exact, admittedly cynical thoughts upon hearing that announcement. My first impression: Yawn. Then I thought, “Yeah, yeah…’Love, Trust, and Commitment’, right? Or being friends with each other. Or something else I’ve heard before.”
How wrong I was. Going through a divorce at the time, what that minister proceeded to present was a gift beyond price. The three “ingredients” turned out to be anything but the trite, usual drivel we’ve all heard before. In fact, they are all but secret to most of us.
Today, it is my pleasure to take those three secrets and impart them to you-albeit with my own spin, of course.
1) Always Think The Best Of Each Other
Basically, the concept here is that both spouses should gravitate towards the positive options when considering each other’s intentions, actions, whereabouts, etc. If s/he says something that could have two meanings, assume the positive one. If s/he says s/he is “working late”, believe it. Yeah, I realize this is all about “trust”, but it’s much deeper. It’s more like having the self-esteem to be confident in one’s choice of a spouse…enough to believe that s/he has the best interests of both partners in mind. What an amazing gift this is. And you know what, I would tend to believe this is an attitude that falls under the “self-fulfilling prophecy” department.
Infidels And The Cheaters Who Love Them
Posted on August 2, 2009
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Have you ever happened across the Jerry Springer Show (I know this group can’t actually be Tivoing it or anything…too high class a crowd) and noticed how people who are cheaters can’t seem to venture too far from home? I mean, the “other partner” always seems to be drawn from a very shallow pool of best friends, sisters, brothers, father-in-laws, etc. All the time.
If you are going to cheat, at least get far enough from the nest that you at might have a fighter’s chance at not getting caught. Right? And good grief, does anyone ever think about how awkward the family time at Thanksgiving is going to be when all of the dust clears?
For the record, no. Cheaters don’t think about any of this stuff. There is no thought process there. Just the occasional adrenaline rush.
Whatever.
Practically speaking, cheaters are by definition non-thinkers. Consideration of details like process and consequences generally cannot be bothered with at all, let alone managed effectively in these situations. So then, it’s not surprising that cheaters tend to get found out…and lose.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not discounting the concept of someone wanting out of a dismal relationship so badly that they may actually want to get caught cheating, just so the burden of ending the relationship is on the other person. I’m sure that enters into it often, actually.
Heavy stuff. Or should I say, pathetic stuff.
Obviously I ruminate upon this sort of thing a good bit. I should, after all it’s my job to. But still, the concept of cheating on a partner in a committed relationship always causes me to rehearse the line, “what goes around comes around” just one more time.
Why?
Budgetary Bliss: Making It Easy With Systems And Strategies
Posted on August 2, 2009
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It seems these days that couples are doing one of two things in response to ‘the economy’. They are either freaking out or buckling down. In any case, it’s the perfect opportunity to finally establish wise money habits, make sound financial decisions, and create a foundation for success.
In working with couples for the past five years, I have seen one glaring obstacle that shows up over and over again: the lack of basic financial systems and strategies.
A system is a consistent step-by-step procedure for doing something and it’s usually the reason something works or doesn’t. Think organization, method, or formula. In the home, it usually answers the question of “who will do it?” It’s a simple equation yet illusive for a lot of couples.
A good example of a well-oiled system is McDonald’s. Walk into any McDonald’s and you’ll notice all the cups stacked the same way, every uniform matched, every French fry perfectly crisp and salted. We come to trust that a hamburger we order in one McDonald’s will be the same in any other one. Quality is one of McDonald’s formulas for success and they achieve that success by creating the system first.
When couples develop good financial systems and stick with them, amazing results are apt to follow. Without them, couples are much more likely to live in fear and hope: fear that everything will fall apart and hope that it doesn’t.
A strategy is a plan for reaching a goal or obtaining a result. Couple conversations about financial strategies encompass ‘how’ they will be reaching short and long terms goals. Money is just one of the many conversations where couples generally don’t spend enough time and energy. Without a financial strategy, couples often end up 10 years down matrimony lane wondering why they are broke, just getting by, or fighting about money all of the time.
Spark-A-Spouse: “Can She Be More Vocal?”
Posted on August 2, 2009
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By Alex Allman,
QUESTION
Alex:
I can never tell when my wife is having a orgasm.
Its hard to tell she only makes a weird face and looks away like she is in pain.
Well the screaming thing you were talking about, I really would love her to do that but she is just too quiet for sex and everything else. She has a very soft voice unless she is really mad at me…
How can i make her use her voice?? music really helps??
Thanks,
A.F. from MN
MY ANSWER:
Yes.
As I mentioned in another article… Music really helps.
The reason that your wife has trouble makingnoise when she comes is that she feels self-conscious.
Commit-2-B-Fit: More Quality Time With Couples Fitness
Posted on August 2, 2009
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By Angie Tousignant, ISSA-CPT
Creator of More Love Less Fat
your hectic lifestyle have both you and your spouse complaining that you have ‘NO TIME!’ Do you feel like the juggling act between your career, spending time with your kids, housework, and extra-curricular activities leaves you with little time to just sit and ‘vegge out’ with your partner?
What about your health. Lack of time is the #1 excuse for avoiding exercise. It can be frustrating when you know that you should workout because it will make you feel better, but you’re current time demands have you feeling stressed out as it is.
…So how can you ever find the time for fitness?
Scott and I have found a wonderful way to spend some quality time together and get healthier at the same time. We work out together! This has been a huge success in our marriage. We totally bond and get an awesome workout in at the same time! We are able to share the events of our day, talk about the kids, share our goals, and our passions.
Instead of us “tagging” each other as we leave separately for our workouts we now enjoy getting fit together. There is no resentment, as in the past, when one of us was walking out on the other, leaving them with the dishes and two screaming kids. It’s a team approach. You are both on the same team now.
One of the benefits that I’ve experienced from the home workouts that I do with Scott is that I am a much more relaxed, stress-free, and patient wife. With couples fitness you are giving your spouse the gift of a partner that is happy and energized.
Imagine how your marriage will improve when both of you are experiencing a boost in energy and gaining confidence as you become proud of the body that you are transforming.
With your increased energy and productivity you’ll be able to manage your daily time demands much easier too.
The quality time that you spend getting fit with your spouse will do wonders for your relationship! It will provide you with many opportunities to celebrate your victories and accomplishments together.
Cheers to health,
Angie ISSA - C.P.T.
Find out more about Scott and Angie’s program The Fat Loss Quickie here.
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